The suicide rate for both men and women approaching retirement age (55-64 yrs) has risen by over 50% in the last 10 years. Why this group? Baby boomers – of all groups. The great promise of reward for effort is deserting some of us. The need to adapt is an evolutionary imperative, but some are reaching this stage of life, and believe adaptation is beyond them.

Where suicide may be driven by feelings of being worthless, helpless and hopeless, “job security” has promised relief and created dependency. Now it has been exposed as not only the big lie, but the perfect anaesthetic – an opium of the masses – masking vulnerability. This is not new – the company doesn’t love you back.

We live in a unique period in history where our average lifespan has increased to 80+, but people are still thinking the old way, like they will die shortly after retirement. The old way of thinking, as if a lifespan to 70, suggests you only need enough superannuation for a few years; that you can be overweight and it won’t bother you for long; and that there won’t be enough time to get bored.

The new mental challenge of a longer lifespan is planning. Damn it – I thought old age was all about not having to plan anything anymore.

  • Will your superannuation keep you for 30 years – is it big enough?
  • Will your health sustain you for 30 years – are you mobile, with a good diet?
  • What will you do with boredom – can you sit on the sofa for 30 years?

We may have thought of life and career as 20/40/60. Leave home at 20, get married and build career till 40. Kick out the kids, then pay off the debts. Approaching 60 and in early retirement, you’d take your trip to Europe, before a heart attack took you.

These days, its looking like 30/60/90 is more representative. Choose a life partner and family from 30 after global travel or career establishment. Family and career through to 60, and then what? 30 years of nothing?

These types of issues are serious enough for there to be an increase in the rate of suicide for this particular demographic. And this only hints at the silent, confused unhappiness being endured by many when they ‘arrive’ and wonder why the party hasn’t started.

60 is the new 40, and all the more confusing because of it.

Even though research  shows that a typical working life will involve 5 careers and 17 employers, there remains right now a generation still living in single employer and single career mindsets, with one-dimensional plans for how retirement will work. They are surrounded by change, don’t think about it much, hoping to get through without being affected. But the speed of change has beaten many of them. New thinking is required – its not too late – but it is urgent.

The hardest part is reaching them before the hammer blow hits. Unhappy and undiagnosed mental ill-health, surviving and battling on, leaves us vulnerable when a redundancy happens, or a divorce, or an illness.

  • Re-assess your superannuation and lifestyle needs.
  • Get a health check – get your weight, drinking and smoking under control.
  • Reconnect with your family, and long lost best friends.
  • Find something new to do, that interests and challenges you.
  • And as for that interest – you haven’t found it until you’re saying “Hell yeah! Why wasn’t I doing this years ago?”

You’ve got more time than you think, and an unprecedented range of possibilities.

He’s a miner in the Hunter Valley, who wishes he had crossed paths with Beyond Blue sooner. A year ago he had attempted suicide, and having spent one hour on the subject in a Beyond Blue session, he can now see what was going wrong for him. Literally “I wish I’d heard this a year ago, it would have prevented my suicide attempt”.

He was an owner builder, and every night he went to bed with his plans, but those plans never worked out the next day. This was so distressing, that it led to his attempted suicide, in that house.

How did it come to this? We can speculate…

  • Lack of sleep? Long days working, then owner building, and planning into the night. Poor sleeping routines damage ability to concentrate. They isolate from other members of the family. There is no downtime.
  • His head on the pillow – how long does he lie awake? What specifically was he thinking about – his successes, his mistakes, problems going through his mind. Endless analytical planning, and perhaps perfectionism – the remote possibility inevitable, the smallest error a catastrophe.
  • What deep-seated beliefs were being challenged? I’m not the son my builder dad expected; I’m not the husband/provider I should be; I’m a failure at something.
  • Lack of self-awareness about mental health – he did not frame his unhappiness in terms of mental health, he did not see his suicide attempt coming (or felt helpless to prevent it), and even after his non-fatal suicide attempt, he still had not, a year later, properly debriefed his experience.

…until Beyond Blue came along. We’re still at awareness stage for many people.

If you would like mental health support, or would like to organise some for your company, go to:

Company workshops and individual counselling are available.

 

This 3-hour session is designed to inform participants about anxiety, depression and suicide, and how these can affect the employees and the workplace. It also explores what makes a healthy workplace.

We take the next step of early intervention and how to approach someone we may have become worried about. We discuss and practise how to make the approach, handling defensiveness, fear and maybe anger.

Finally, we explore how organisations can support people who have been formally diagnosed. We work our way through reasonable adjustments that can be made, how to communicate them, and also how to maintain focus on corporate goals.